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Fitting In and Standing Out



"I used to hate not fitting in, until I realized I was born to stand out." 
I came across this quote today, and it brought me back in time.  You see, I was the one that never fit in.  I always had friends, but I was never popular.  I wasn't asked to parties.  I wasn't asked to dances, and until after high school, I didn't have many dates.  I never fit in with the popular crowd.  I was a victim of the popular crowd being mean to me, and humiliating me.  People always say that they wish they could go back to high school.  Not me.  Those were traumatic years for me.  We had the cheerleaders, the jocks, the brains, the "pretty-girl" club,  the mean girls, the druggies, and the nobodies.  Me and my friends were included with the nobodies.  Not fitting in bothered me most of my life.  Now, I realize that it's ok not to fit in, and honestly, it's not something that I think about much any more.
I did not like being different.  Now, I wouldn't like being the same!  I am different, and I am proud of that.  I have realized that I have many talents and gifts that I can share with others.  I can be witty, and funny.  I have a huge heart, and I am empathetic with people.  I want to reach out and help others.  I want to make a difference.  Now, for the first time in my life, I feel like I can make a difference.  Why?  Because I was born to stand out!
I cannot pretend to know everyone's story, but I know that there are people out there who were just like me.  They didn't fit in.  Maybe they still don't.  If this is you, or someone like you, I want to share this!  Don't worry about fitting in!  YOU WERE BORN TO STAND OUT!  Be proud of yourself!  Be proud of your differences!  Share your gifts with others!  This is what you were meant to do!


Always remember – YOU ARE AWESOME!  Go out and make it a great day!

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  1. TiggerwigginsMay 10, 2018 at 5:38 AM

    Lisa, I never fit in. I was introverted and shy, tramatized by childhood abuse that I eventually got help for later in my adult life. I realized that the "nobodies" are the type of people I wanted to be with. They tend to be the smart and interesting ones, the dreamers and deep thinkers, the kind and compassionate people who care about others and our world. These are MY kind of people, the type of individuals who go out and try to make their little corner of the world a better place, or even make changes on a global scale! 💙

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    1. Lisa CochranMay 10, 2018 at 6:47 AM

      Yes, the nobodies were like that. I'm not saying that being a part of that group was a bad thing. At that age, it was hard to not be popular and be reminded of it all of the time! I cannot relate to the childhood abuse that you are speaking of, but it is good that you got help for. We all need help occasionally.

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