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Saying "NO"



A problem that many of us have, is that we have a hard time saying "No."  It's just a simple, two-letter word.  Why is it so difficult?
Some of us have always said "Yes," even to things we don't want to do.  It's easier than thinking that we have let others down.  It's easier than harboring the guilt if we don't say "Yes."  We have always said "Yes."  People expect that of us!  Sometimes, by saying "Yes," it can be like saying "No" to ourselves.  Some of us always put others first, and, sometimes that means that we take care of everyone else, but ourselves!  Most of the time, it is easier to take care of everyone else, than it is to take care of ourselves, because that is what we are used to doing.  We feel guilty putting ourselves first!  We think it is selfish to put ourselves first.
Yes, we are supposed to do for others, and I'm definitely not saying that there is anything wrong with that.  Sometimes, though, it is detrimental to our own well being, when we don't put ourselves first.  We have to learn to take care of ourselves.  Saying "Yes" to something that you don't want to do, or don't have the time to do, adds additional stress to our lives.  What happens with stress?  We begin to have negative thoughts. We fail to meet our own goals.  To some, stress is a trigger to self-sabotage.
We have to learn to say "No" to things that we don't want to do, or have the time to do.  We need to rid ourselves of that feeling of "dread" of having to do what it is, that we don't want to do.  We need to rid ourselves of the additional stress that we are putting on ourselves!
It is not only about saying "No" to others.  We have to learn to say it to ourselves.  We need to say "No" to negative thoughts.  We need to say "No" to our bad habits, when we are trying to break them.  We need to say "No" to the food-pushers, and to our trigger foods.  Once we learn to say "No," we will begin to feel a little bit of empowerment.  We will begin to feel strong!  We will take better care of ourselves!  That strength, and power, will lead us to our goals!
Make a goal for yourself for today!  Just say "No," and see how good it makes you feel!

Always remember – YOU ARE AWESOME!  Go out and make it a great day!
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