We all have stories of friendships. Most of us have made friends, and lost friends along the way, for many different reasons.
I'm still friends with my first friend, that I made at the age of three. She lives in a different state, and we don't talk as much, but I know I can count on her, if I need to. I am still friends with people that I went to first grade with, and many of us keep in touch, and get together as a group, occasionally.
I have lost two friends to death, both in their early twenties. One was my very best friend in the world, but I had ruined that friendship. She did something that I didn't approve of. I was judgmental, and I told her that I couldn't stand by her side on this decision. I did send her a letter apologizing, and saying that I valued, and missed our friendship. I never heard from her. Shortly after that, I heard she had a stroke and was on life support. To this day, close to thirty years later, I still have not been able to get past that. It was a very hard lesson learned, and to this day, I judge no one. I support my friends in all of their decisions, whether I believe in them or not.
The second friend I lost was just a great person. I keep in touch with his family, and I named my oldest son after him, hoping that he would have some great character traits, which he does.
I lost friends after my divorce. It seems that most people choose sides, and can't figure out how to remain friends with both people. What I find strange about that, is that I get along with my ex-husband. We have forgiven each other, and we continued to communicate for the sake of our kids. The kids are grown now, and I am friends with his new wife. We get along, and pretty much consider each other as family. We do things together when it involves our sons. Maybe we are a functioning and dysfunctional family, at the same time, but it works. I was very devastated to lose friends, and it made for lonely times.
On the other hand, Facebook brought me in touch with people that I had not talked to in years. I renewed friendships. I became friends with people from my past, that I never thought I would have been friends with, in a million years. I guess that we have all grown up.
I have new friends, through my boyfriend and his family. Some of these people, I also went to school with, and never would have considered friends.
On this journey, I have made many connections, and many friends. I have found a tribe! I have friends that I communicate with daily, and none of which I have personally met. I don't know what some of them look like. I wouldn't know them if I ran into them. These friends have made a big difference in my life, and in my journey. They all offer support. Some offer prayers and reassurance. Some are snarky, sarcastic and fun. (You know who you are!) They make me laugh, especially at times when I need that laugh! Sometimes we are sarcastic. We dish it out to each other, and we take it. Some others just don't get this, and I can't help that. Our friendship is our friendship, and what works for us, may not work for others. I just know that we have fun! I know that they all have my back, and that I also have theirs.
I try to picture what this journey would be like without all of the new friends that I have made. If I didn't have these people for support, I might have given up a long time ago. I can't say that for sure, but I know the journey would have been so much more difficult than it has been. Since we are all trying to accomplish the same things, we understand each other. Almost everyone remains positive when they comment on each of our posts. I'm not saying that my other friends do not understand, but their understanding is not at the same level, because they are not on the same journey.
If you have not made connections, and friends with people on Connect, or on the Whys Wingmen Facebook page, you are missing out! If you tend to push people away, or not interact, you are missing out! The support is great! I know, that the people that I communicate with, will probably end up being some of my best friends. I value our friendships! I value their comments, and suggestions. I value their support! I am grateful to have them in my life! They are my tribe! Make friends. Find your tribe. It is your choice who you want to be friends with, and who you don't. Don't criticize other's friendships. No one can have too many friends!
I'm still friends with my first friend, that I made at the age of three. She lives in a different state, and we don't talk as much, but I know I can count on her, if I need to. I am still friends with people that I went to first grade with, and many of us keep in touch, and get together as a group, occasionally.
I have lost two friends to death, both in their early twenties. One was my very best friend in the world, but I had ruined that friendship. She did something that I didn't approve of. I was judgmental, and I told her that I couldn't stand by her side on this decision. I did send her a letter apologizing, and saying that I valued, and missed our friendship. I never heard from her. Shortly after that, I heard she had a stroke and was on life support. To this day, close to thirty years later, I still have not been able to get past that. It was a very hard lesson learned, and to this day, I judge no one. I support my friends in all of their decisions, whether I believe in them or not.
The second friend I lost was just a great person. I keep in touch with his family, and I named my oldest son after him, hoping that he would have some great character traits, which he does.
I lost friends after my divorce. It seems that most people choose sides, and can't figure out how to remain friends with both people. What I find strange about that, is that I get along with my ex-husband. We have forgiven each other, and we continued to communicate for the sake of our kids. The kids are grown now, and I am friends with his new wife. We get along, and pretty much consider each other as family. We do things together when it involves our sons. Maybe we are a functioning and dysfunctional family, at the same time, but it works. I was very devastated to lose friends, and it made for lonely times.
On the other hand, Facebook brought me in touch with people that I had not talked to in years. I renewed friendships. I became friends with people from my past, that I never thought I would have been friends with, in a million years. I guess that we have all grown up.
I have new friends, through my boyfriend and his family. Some of these people, I also went to school with, and never would have considered friends.
On this journey, I have made many connections, and many friends. I have found a tribe! I have friends that I communicate with daily, and none of which I have personally met. I don't know what some of them look like. I wouldn't know them if I ran into them. These friends have made a big difference in my life, and in my journey. They all offer support. Some offer prayers and reassurance. Some are snarky, sarcastic and fun. (You know who you are!) They make me laugh, especially at times when I need that laugh! Sometimes we are sarcastic. We dish it out to each other, and we take it. Some others just don't get this, and I can't help that. Our friendship is our friendship, and what works for us, may not work for others. I just know that we have fun! I know that they all have my back, and that I also have theirs.
I try to picture what this journey would be like without all of the new friends that I have made. If I didn't have these people for support, I might have given up a long time ago. I can't say that for sure, but I know the journey would have been so much more difficult than it has been. Since we are all trying to accomplish the same things, we understand each other. Almost everyone remains positive when they comment on each of our posts. I'm not saying that my other friends do not understand, but their understanding is not at the same level, because they are not on the same journey.
If you have not made connections, and friends with people on Connect, or on the Whys Wingmen Facebook page, you are missing out! If you tend to push people away, or not interact, you are missing out! The support is great! I know, that the people that I communicate with, will probably end up being some of my best friends. I value our friendships! I value their comments, and suggestions. I value their support! I am grateful to have them in my life! They are my tribe! Make friends. Find your tribe. It is your choice who you want to be friends with, and who you don't. Don't criticize other's friendships. No one can have too many friends!
Always remember – YOU ARE AMAZING! Go out and make it a great day!
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